As the bell rang, I worked to strengthen my resolve, stood up, and waited by the door to greet my herd. Students started to file into the room, some alone, some in small groups. Still the one I was waiting for had not arrived. I began to think that possibly I would be off the hook and this student would not be attending school. That was not to be. Right before the second bell the student arrived and sat down.
I knew that the day before, when the student had stayed for help after school with many other students, and had left angry and yelling that it was going to be an interesting morning. I had worked had to maintain a clam demeanor and not express the frustration and anger that I had felt. I feel that I did a good job of not expressing any excitable emotion. I let the student yell and me and be angry. This had transferred to silence and being ignored. I wasn't sure what to expect as the student returned the next day, but I was ready...or so I thought.
The reception was chilly to say the least. This student, usually so eager to visit with me, gave me the cold shoulder and moved as far away as possible from me in morning meeting. I was prepared for this exact treatment and "retaliated" with my own attack. I simply ignore this student. Boy did that work. Within the hour, the student was back to full operation with in the classroom community- participating, visiting, and for the most part happy.
A small victory for this teacher who, in an attempt to show compassion, empathy, and forgiveness- sometimes forgets that a firm, calm reprimand is required for a healthy and balanced teacher-to-students experience.
I just thought I would share my small victory.